Friday, October 15, 2010

"To Be a friend, is to have a friend"

·       Like yourself
·       Choose Wisely
·       Be loyal
These three statements can be applied to any relationship you have throughout your life. There comes a point in your life that you have to decide whether you want “everyone” in your life or a handful of good friends.
" A real friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out" Poverb
This article is in response to a conversation I had with a close friend, I dedicate this to you. I believe when you have good friends that you trust and love getting hurt from one of them hurts just as much as getting hurt from a family member. It is vital that when you are on your journey to a better you that you leave the “mess” behind. There are people that you do not need in your life if they cannot compliment your new life. I have stated this before in a pass article that your friends should lift you up, embrace you through everything. This statement goes equally for your family.
 We all need good friends; believe it or not they play just as much a role as your family does in shaping who you are. The last thing you need is friends that will try to bring you down and change you into someone you don’t want to be. At the same time if you know who you are and are aware of yourself, then you are aware of the things you will not put up with, your beliefs and compromises. We often fail to realize the way we treat people around us and the things we say to them. This is because we get so comfortable around each other we often do not value the time we have spent and going to spend with the people around us.  It is necessary that on your journey you also become aware of your surroundings. We are human so mistakes are going to be made, however acknowledge your mistakes, the people closest to you are the ones you feel the results of your actions the most
No one should be a bully, or feel that it is necessary to protect yourself so much against the world you treat the people that love you the most the worst. No one should be bullied by friends, if you are, ask yourself: is that really your friend? Or is the word friendship used so much that it loses value to everyone that uses it? Your friendships are like any relationships it is a commitment until you choose to move on or continue the relationship. Although you aren’t bonded to someone the way you may be with your family member the time spent having that friendship affects how you react to the things they do.
There is an unseen code for every friendship; it’s like the invisible handbook. This code includes a list of dos and don’ts, it is unseen but exists. The list includes expectations from your friends and expectations of you; it also includes memories you hide and never repeat secrets and rules you never break. So what happens when a friend show you a side of them you never seen? I believe it should be address if you have a strong friendship, you should let them know exactly how you feel. Holding things inside will only come out later in an unattended manor. Try to address issues early to save friendships worth saving.
Being a better friend- Tips to remember:
  • Accept you have differences and there will be differences of opinion
  • No amount of fighting will change someone’s mind. Know when to agree and disagree
  • Don’t let disagreements last for long; sometimes hurt feelings will turn into the end of a friendship.
  • Treat your friends as you would like to be treated
  • Never talk about someone behind their backs, isolate or gang up on them
  • Appreciate your friends
  • Acknowledge when they are successful and even when they aren’t and just trying
  • Allow other people to enter your circle of friends
  • Respects each other’s privacy
  • Apologize when you are wrong
  • Improving your Relationships
  • The best friendship are made from living, loving and sharing
  • Face difficulties and problems when they arise
  • Be willing to take full responsibility for your words and actions
  • Be honest
  • Listen
Empower, Embrace, Unite, Create, Love


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